Monday, December 31, 2012

Reflecting on a sad, sickening day


Column published in last week's issue of The Madison County Journal

By Dallas Bordon
If you’re like me, you’re a bit anxious when you drop off your child at school each morning following the tragedy in Newtown Connecticut. We might wonder if it’s possible that tragedy, like the shootings in Newtown that killed 26 people (20 children), could happen in our community. The tragedy that occurred in Newtown, a quiet small town with a low crime rate, proves that it can happen in any town. “I never pictured that anything like this could happen in our town” echoed the words of one resident of Newtown.
One victim’s dad Robbie Parker, told the media “I can’t imagine this happening; this has to be some sort of mistake.” Parker’s daughter Emilie was among the innocent children killed by 20 year old Adam Lanza at Sandy Hook Elementary. In reality, tragedies like the one in Newtown Connecticut can happen anywhere at any time. It’s easy to think that there is no way our county could have such a tragedy happen such as that of Newtown or Littleton Colorado.
 Now, it has to be something that crosses our minds when we say our goodbyes each morning while dropping off our kids. It seems with the tragedies in Newtown, the one a couple of years ago at Virginia Tech, and at Columbine in Littleton Colorado in 1999, that schools have become a battle field and an easy target for some cowardly lunatic to open fire.
What drives these people to kill the innocent inside of our educational institutions? Councilors spend time trying to figure out the mindset of troubled people like Lanza or Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold--the gunmen at Columbine, and never come to a conclusion to just what they were thinking. What drives this madness of these killers to take innocent lives before killing themselves?
Blame is quickly given to different attributes like popular video games where you can get a high off blowing up and killing hundreds of people. But unlike a video game there is no reset button that you can hit when it happens in real life.  
The majority of these killers are labeled as social misfits who like Lanza, remained in a bubble voluntarily sheltered from society. Or like Harris and Klebold who enjoyed targeting the athletes in the Columbine shooting spree. These two guys were said to be victims of bullying from mainly athletes within the school. But still, the bullying or being labeled as a social misfit doesn't justify a person or persons to start a shooting spree of innocent people.
Where do we place the blame behind these senseless killings? Where does the rage come from?
Following these tragedies, many people want to see improved gun laws. According to reports, the guns used in the Sandy Hook Elementary shootings were legally purchased and licensed by the mother of Lanza.  Current gun laws do not require applicants to disclose any treatment for mental illness or if someone in the home with access to the guns suffers from mental illness. We have all heard the saying that guns don’t kill people; people kill people. There is a concern of some citizens that teachers should be equipped with guns that are locked up in their classrooms. I don’t necessarily agree with that, but I will always wonder that if the staff had access to a weapon could they have used them in defense and limited the number of casualties at Sandy Hook and Columbine. Just what is a good solution?
It was a sad and sickening day for the nation after the Columbine and Newtown shootings. Innocent teens at Columbine, kids ages 6 and 7 at Sandy Hook and many staff members gunned down for no apparent reason. There are no answers to tragedies like this.
Emilie Parker’s father Robbie, while fighting back tears, offered this plea on that tragic afternoon “let’s not let this tragedy turn into something that defines us, but something that inspires us to be better, to be more compassionate and more humble people.”
As we pause to remember those killed in Newtown, we can also pray that God will comfort the families of the victims and protect us all.

Thursday, December 13, 2012

Remembering My Mom

My column published in this week's issue of The Madison County Journal.


By Dallas Bordon
dallasb32@yahoo.com

She loved her grand kids  She loved her husband, her sons and extended family. She enjoyed watching her only grandson grow up playing baseball for many years. She enjoyed watching both granddaughters taking part in so many activities over the years. She enjoyed our yearly trips to Myrtle Beach every June around my birthday. She enjoyed serving as a pastor’s wife and valued her friends, her church and beliefs.
On Thanksgiving Day of this year, this lady that loved to do many things and loved so many people passed away.  While watching my mom’s final few days as she was lying in her hospital bed, I knew that the day I have dreaded for years was near.  I wasn't prepared for the moment and the realization that her death was one day going to happen. I just couldn't picture it.
My mom suffered for the past two years with signs of dementia which began to worsen just this past year. Along with that disease, she recently developed infection in one lung and lived the majority of her final year on antibiotics. My dad became her full-time caregiver doing what any great husband would do to make sure his wife was well taken care of. On the Saturday prior to her death, she was taken to the emergency room where test results showed a fluid buildup around her heart and one lung. Surgery was required to remove the fluid; she briefly recovered, but on Thanksgiving Day my mom decided that she had enough of the illness and passed away.
The day that I dreaded for so many years had arrived. It was like a bad dream and I knew that I was soon to be wakened, but I was wrong. My mom was in no more pain as she died peacefully with my brother at her side. She was able to see us all briefly that morning one last time; just what she would have wanted.
It’s true what people say about loving your parents now and enjoying your time with them because we can’t go back and make up for lost time after they’re gone. This Thanksgiving Day gave me yet another reason to be thankful. Thankful for her life and legacy she left behind. I have two choices in the days to come; either I can sit around and grieve for days on end or I can be thankful for the 46 years that I have been blessed to be her son. I choose the latter. There will be times I will still grieve, but my memories of her fill me with so much happiness and that can never be taken away. She was everything a son could hope for in a mother; a supporter, an encourager, and had a love for even those people who crossed her from time to time.  She would worry often only because she cared so much about her family and always wanted to see each of us happy even if it meant that she had to step out of the spotlight to give way to things we were involved with.
Her love for family was evident and showed through a wide range of her collection of pictures. My mom had her own “Wall of Fame” as she called it. A room in her house dedicated to pictures that covered two walls in collage form of our different stages of life. It’s such a warm feeling each time I walk through that room on my visits and relive memories of family through those pictures. Now each time I look at this wall I will also relive the memories of my mom and will remember the love and dedication she gave us. Even though she proudly called it her Wall of Fame, she never wanted the spotlight. She would do all she could to make sure we knew her loved shined on us always. Now she has finally received her reward as she shines brightly in Heaven surrounded by family and friends that have gone before her. Thank you mom for everything; we love you and you’ll be greatly missed. Rest in peace.  


Tuesday, November 13, 2012

2012 Madison County Basketball


Nov 15 Red and Gray Scrimmage at Middle School 4:30
Nov 17 MC Invitational  Home 3:00
Nov 20 MC Invitational Home 4:00
Nov 27 Elbert County Home 6:00
Nov 30 Stephens County Home 7:00
Dec 1 North Oconee Home 4:00
Dec 4 Hart County Away 6:00
Dec 7 Clarke Central Away 7:00
Dec 8 Oconee County Home 4:00
Dec 11 Apalachee Away 6:00
Dec 15 Elbert County Away 4:00
Dec 21 Walnut Grove Home 7:00
Dec 27-29 Hart County Christmas Tournament Boys Away
Dec 27-29 Hart County Christmas Tournament Girls Away
Jan 5 Oconee County Away 4:00
Jan 8 Johnson High School Away 6:00
Jan 11 Walnut Grove Away 7:00
Jan 12 Clarke Central Home 4:00
Jan 15 Chestatee Away 6:00
Jan 19 North Oconee Away 6:00
Jan 22 Monroe Area Home 6:00
Jan 25 Lanier Home 7:00
Jan 29 Lumpkin County Home 6:00
Feb 1 Stephens County Away 7:00
Feb 11-16 Region Tournament at Johnson High School
Feb 22-23 First round of State
Feb 26-27 2nd round of State
**All home games will be played at the Madison County Middle School Gym due to construction at the high school. 
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Monday, November 12, 2012

Former Raider McCrary returns to the court


Published in a November issue of The Madison County Journal. www.mainstreetnews.com

By Dallas Bordon
dallasb32@yahoo.com
Madison County’s Patrick McCrary is making an impact for the Emmanuel College Lions basketball team. A 2010 graduate of Madison County High School and former Raider basketball and football standout, McCrary has led the Emmanuel Lions to a 2-0 start and is averaging 17.5 points and 10 rebounds a game.
McCrary, who is in his second season with the Lions, suffered a wrist injury this past February that sidelined him for the conference and NCCAA championship tournaments. “It was an experience I’ll never forget,” said McCrary. “All I wanted to do was get back up and continue playing but I knew what the injury meant; missing the conference and NCCAA tournaments.” McCrary was injured while attempting a breakaway dunk following a steal just weeks before the Lions started tournament play. While going up for the dunk, McCrary was fouled causing him to dislocate his wrist against the backboard and then breaking the wrist in four places trying to brace himself on the fall. The injury required surgery, but McCrary has made an amazing comeback. “He made an unbelievable recovery from a devastating arm injury,” said Lions coach and former Oconee County standout T.J. Rosene. “I really worried that it would affect his aggressiveness, but it has not in the least.”
The injury took nearly 6 months to completely heal, but McCrary claims it changed the way he plays the game. “I was able to mentally understand the game better being away for so long and it made me a stronger player,” said McCrary. Patrick remembers his coach jokingly telling him that he’s a warrior but wishes it would have been his other wrist so he could become a better shooter. McCrary states that he appreciates his relationship with coach Rosene. “Coach Rosene told me that if your dreams are bigger than those around you then your life should look significantly different. That truly hit me because I had dreams of being freshman of the year when I got to Emmanuel, but ended up making the All Freshman First Team which was truly an honor,” said McCrary. “Patrick is one of the finest young men I have ever coached. He is very much an undersized post at our level, but has already been able to accomplish great things,” said Rosene who is in his 6th year at Emmanuel. “Pat has been a great Christian example both on and off the court.”